Energy Vampirism in the Workplace

I teach that there is value in experiencing the Shadow side of life and how to use chaos and fear effectively. I define evil from a psychological, energetic, metaphysical and spiritual perspective that helps people to recognize and discern (not judge) how to apply spiritual principle to difficult situations. The concepts taught are helping people understand what is happening to them on a human level and validates their human experiences. Then they learn how to apply spiritual principles from Buddha, Jesus, Jungian psychology, and metaphysicians to move out of the human experience into the place where they can come into closer contact with their true spiritual nature. How does this apply to a business situation?

This is best illustrated with the following story: Recently, I met a group of middle management employees of a major Atlanta-based international organization at a local Starbucks, quite by accident. When I heard one of them mention 'malignant narcisscist' and 'borderline personality disorder', I realized that they were talking about behaviors that I call "energy vampirism". They were discussing a serious situation that existed with an upper level manager who was psychologically/verbally abusing lower level managers and team members. One of the members of the group described how her health has been affected over the course of the last two years and what she's been doing to try to keep her job. She has run the gamut of doctors, EAP options, business coaches, and finally consulted an EEO attorney. She has no recourse. Psychological abuse is not a crime and she has no legal way to mediate the situation. She loves her job and her team. She has no way to protect them from this manager as she has had to spend all her time protecting herself. At this point, I introduced myself and my book, Transformation of Evil to them. I teach people how to deal with situations exactly like this one. Everyone at the table resonated with the information and bought a book.

That was a chance meeting at a Starbucks. What kind of impact could this information have if it were disseminated to a larger audience? If you would like to sponsor a workshop, talk, or seminar, please contact me. debra@transformationofevil.com

The Shadow Knows

“Accepting a larger level of anxiety is the price of growth. The failure to grow will produce either depression, or such fixated adaptation as we find in our daily neuroses.”

James Hollis, Why Good People Do Bad Things, pg. 70

Defining Traditional Chaos

James Hollis applies the Jungian philosophy that your ego consciousness is splintered and therefore you have what Jung called the Shadow. Some of these shadowy facets of your personality or ego are unconscious to you and it is these aspects of the personality that can control your thought processes, feelings, emotions, and actions. He advocates searching out these hidden parts of your ego consciousness because until you heal and accept them, they will cause you to behave in ways that deny your Highest Good. When this happens in your life, you go into chaos. The Shadow creates the chaos.

In Greek and Roman mythology, the Goddess of Chaos, also called Strife, has two sides which have opposite effects on your human life. The Goddess of Chaos is of The Light, regardless of how she appears to you. Strife can be a motivational energy that causes you to work harder to achieve your dreams or she can bring destruction for what seems to be no good reason at all. In whatever form she appears in your life, you can be assured that nothing will be the same when she’s gone.

Chaos causes the disintegration of old paradigms, out-dated institutionalized reactions and systems, and all things that no longer serve you. Chaos forces you to release old tribal belief systems inherited from the societal, cultural and family environments you were exposed to growing up.

Chaos shines the light on things that you haven’t dealt with in your life that are holding you back. Sometimes you consciously know what those thoughts and emotions are. Sometimes they remain subconscious and you are asked to move to a new level of Trust and Faith that everything that is happening is in your Highest Good. When you get on a roller coaster, you do so with complete Trust and Faith in the company who built the track, the safety harness, and the computer systems that run the ride. Allowing Chaos into your life is like riding a roller coaster.

Re-defining Chaos, Change, and Fear

When Chaos shows up, your response could be “hold on! The ride has begun!” Go on the roller coaster with her. OK – here you go- you’re ramping up to the top of the first hill. The car hesitates for just a moment – AND YOU’RE OFF! The car is shaking, hair is flying everywhere. You are screaming your lungs out! Here comes the Loop de Loop. You are upside down! And look – you haven’t fallen out of the car. Sometimes it felt like you could fall out during that ride but, you reach the platform all in one piece. Every time. Regardless of what happens on that ride, you always come out in one piece. You may be dead, but honey, you will be all in one piece wherever you land!

Did you tense up or relax while on that ride? If you relaxed into the ride, you probably weren’t scared much at all – a little concerned, maybe, but not terrified. That’s healthy. If you can realize that CHAOS is exactly like that roller coaster ride, the FEAR OF CHANGE practically disappears. When you can reach that state of balance, CHAOS moves out of the Darkness, into the Light to become CATALYTIC HUNCHES AWAKENING OUR SPIRITUALITY. Change becomes CATALYTIC HUNCHES ARRANGING NEW GROWTH EXPERIENCES. Fear becomes FLOWING EASILY ALLOWING REBIRTH. Do you see the beauty in that? The Goddess of Chaos never comes without bearing gifts.

You may have to walk into your Dark Night of The Soul. You may have to face terrible hardship. You may have to do it all by yourself. You will have to walk through the swamps before you reach your destination. You will have to face your illusions – False Evidence Appearing Real – before you are able to use the catalytic hunches that lead you out of the Forest of Darkness. You will have to learn how to Flow Easily Allowing the new growth experiences arranged specifically for your Rebirth.

What are you going to release in order to create space for the abundance and prosperity that’s waiting for you? CHAOS gives you that ability to achieve what you desire. Embrace her. Rejoice when the Goddess of Chaos enters your life or someone else’s. Someone lose a job, get fired? Call them up and tell them Congratulations! Relationship ending or changing? Congratulations! Don’t know what you are doing with your life? Hurray! Move into chaos with faith and trust that all is right and perfect in your life, even if it doesn’t look like it.

Chaos gives you a unique opportunity to practice looking at it from a higher perspective. This is where you begin to learn what it means to be in the human experience with a spiritual awareness. When you see what is occurring as simply an indication of the larger energies manifesting around you, you have an ability to relax into the human experience regardless of whether the human experience is judged “good” or “bad”.

When observing Chaos from this view, it becomes possible to read the clues that are given to you that show you where you are and what the next right action is going to be. Strife is doing her job to motivate you out of complacency and into action. However, action may not be what you think it is. Sometimes the right thing to do is to simply S.Y.A.D, as in “SIT CH’OR ASS DOWN!” Sit your ass down. Don’t move. Don’t DO anything. Not doing anything is doing something. The Universe will tell you when to move, what to do, and usually how to do it. If you stay present and aware, the signs will appear.

At this point is helps to remember that chaos and change are most likely happening in response to an affirmation or denial you put out into the Ethers. Affirmations create chaos. Denials create chaos. The Universe is setting up the conditions required to give you what asked. The old saying “Be careful what you asked for!” probably came from someone who was experiencing chaos and realized that what was happening was answering his prayer.

The Ultimate Affirmation and Denial

As discussed in the last article, intellectualization, tribal belief systems, Divine Timing, and the subconscious/conscious awareness of Faith and Trust are all blocks to your ability to manifest affirmations and denials. There are many ways to form an affirmation but the one that seems to consistently have the most power to shatter those blocks and causes manifestation is the one that acknowledges the God within you when you say “I AM.” The ultimate affirmation and denial begins with a realization that you are God.

Any statement that begins with “I AM” and ends with whatever you say is a statement of the condition of God within you or is blocking the true state of God within you. For example, if you say “I AM Powerful”, then the condition of God within you is to be powerful, this is the true condition of God within you. If you say “I AM weak”, then you are blocking the true condition of God within you which seeks to have you be powerful.

The Full Moon cycle is about going deep within to uncover what no longer serves you. On August 16, 2008, a major astrological eclipse cycle was completed for 2008. The end of an eclipse cycle mirrors exactly what was happening in your lives six months prior. In this case, the start of this cycle was February, 2008. The key to successfully navigating this cycle is to see the patterns and alter your reactions to the circumstances if necessary. For many, this cycle was about clearing out what no longer serves on a subconscious level. The energy of this final clearing at this vibrational level, where ever that may be for you, will sift through the fallout for another month. The clearing for a lot of people had to do with healing and releasing tribal belief systems.

The impact of tribal belief systems to block your highest good can show up as the internal wounded child who is now demanding to be recognized and acknowledged. The 14 year old who took responsibility for the family’s woes can appear as gallstones and an inflamed gallbladder. The detoxification process required to pass those gallstones could symbolically be the process required to deal with the woundedness of that child. When the old energy is cleared, it creates the ability of the forty-four year old adult to care for and nurture the inner 14 year old. The affirmation of the forty-four year old that says “I AM powerful” now has the feeling and the energy to manifest. “It feels as though I've been released. The tightness in my stomach and chest is gone and I just feel warm inside.” says the forty-four year old adult. The affirmation of “I AM” is all that is required to manifest abundance and prosperity in your life.

You exist now in an energy that supports your ability to say “I AM” and feel how simply Being allows right action to flow through you. This has been one of Jesus’ main teachings and it’s taken over 2,000 years for the energy to be available to the masses so that Being is now our definition of Who You Are. No longer are you defined by what you DO. “I AM” is all you need.

Jesus said don’t caste pearls before swine, meaning don’t waste your time trying to convince, convert, educate or enlighten someone when they clearly have no interest in listening to you. It won’t change the pig and you will have done nothing more than waste your time at best and caused yourself enormous frustration at worst.

As you shift from one plane on the spiral of spiritual evolution to the next, you discover much to your dismay and surprise that certain people aren’t going to go with you. When you discover that a cherished friend, partner, parent, child, lover, or co-worker is no longer resonating with you may have feelings of guilty, sadness, anger, fear, and confusion at having to let that person go. As you increase your awareness and abilities, you want everyone to partake of the new discoveries. Alas, not everyone can nor has the desire. It helps to understand that everyone is at a different stage of development, at various rates of speed and ability, on different planes of the spiral.

It is enough to be aware that everyone is on the path of spiritual evolution and that you must honor each person by allowing them to be where they are. It does not honor a person who has chosen to stay in a low vibration to force them to constantly interact with a person moving into a higher vibration. All that does is make the lower vibrational person feel aware of their own perceived shortcomings. This causes great discomfort that usually causes that person to react with anger, shame, guilt, manipulation, and abuse.

A person of higher vibration cannot sustain the higher vibration for long when the pull of the lower vibration wears down the energy of the other. This is why people who are expanding must leave behind those who are not moving into a complimentary or comparable vibrational level. Lower vibrational people are not in their own personal power and they unconsciously seek out sources of energy that can help them maintain their states of being. Higher vibrational people have built up a level of energy that can power themselves and still have enough to give to others for short periods of time. Lower vibrational energy seeks to drain all of the power the higher vibration possesses. We know these people as Energy Vampires. When this happens, the higher vibration person will find themselves behaving in ways that are not consistent with what they know to be Truth.

Lower vibrational people will always seek the Light of the higher vibrational person. It becomes the responsibility of the higher vibrational person to know when, how, and how much energy to give away in the interaction so that both people are served. The higher vibrational person who learns this is not easily depleted and can move through the world easily, attracting and manifesting what they need and want. Usually, however, this is a lesson learned in time after many experiences of bouncing back and forth between lower and higher vibrations. I call those experiences “Fall Down, Go Boom!”

You pick yourself up because you know you can’t stay in the lower vibration. As you perceive where you are, you move towards the higher, more comfortable vibration. Eventually, most of your time is spent there. You’ll always have periods of time where you slip back into a lower vibration. Those periods serve you and you must learn to honor them and use them as learning and healing circumstances just as much as you value being in higher, more comfortable surroundings. Without contrast, you cannot continually appreciate what you have. You would take what you have for granted.

The advancing spiritual seeker begins to realize that they are tired of being held back and rebels. Sometimes relationships with the stuck seeker can continue in a new way. Sometimes it is best if the advancing seeker realizes that their new energy makes the stuck seeker extremely uncomfortable and the best strategy is to simply not interact with them at all or in limited ways. It is impossible to honor another person’s journey when the level of discomfort rises to a level that causes damaging behavior to occur.

Meditation with the “I AM” as the mantra has the power to move considerable amounts of energy. It would not be unusual to feel that as the crown charka opens, the third eye opens immediately. If there are blocks in the heart and solar plexus charkas, feelings of expansion, clearing and lightness will enter those areas as the blocked energy is cleared with the power of “I AM.” All charkas can be cleared with powerful “I AM” statements.

Use “I AM” to begin figuring out what you need to do to unblock the true condition of God within you. These blocks are usually related to feeling states. “I AM Powerful” is a feeling statement. It is the opposite of weak. “I AM Real” is a feeling statement that is the opposite of feeling like an imitation or substitute. “I AM THAT I AM” is simply the ultimate statement of the true condition of God within you.

Unblocking the feelings that keep you trapped in the false evidence that you are not an individuation of God is the key to manifestation. Achieving that state requires the “simple” act of just Being. That would be easy to do if you didn’t have your monkey mind, your intellect, bombarding you with noise. “I AM” is the going to help you get to that state of just Being. Try it. Watch what happens.