Energy Vampirism in the Workplace

I teach that there is value in experiencing the Shadow side of life and how to use chaos and fear effectively. I define evil from a psychological, energetic, metaphysical and spiritual perspective that helps people to recognize and discern (not judge) how to apply spiritual principle to difficult situations. The concepts taught are helping people understand what is happening to them on a human level and validates their human experiences. Then they learn how to apply spiritual principles from Buddha, Jesus, Jungian psychology, and metaphysicians to move out of the human experience into the place where they can come into closer contact with their true spiritual nature. How does this apply to a business situation?

This is best illustrated with the following story: Recently, I met a group of middle management employees of a major Atlanta-based international organization at a local Starbucks, quite by accident. When I heard one of them mention 'malignant narcisscist' and 'borderline personality disorder', I realized that they were talking about behaviors that I call "energy vampirism". They were discussing a serious situation that existed with an upper level manager who was psychologically/verbally abusing lower level managers and team members. One of the members of the group described how her health has been affected over the course of the last two years and what she's been doing to try to keep her job. She has run the gamut of doctors, EAP options, business coaches, and finally consulted an EEO attorney. She has no recourse. Psychological abuse is not a crime and she has no legal way to mediate the situation. She loves her job and her team. She has no way to protect them from this manager as she has had to spend all her time protecting herself. At this point, I introduced myself and my book, Transformation of Evil to them. I teach people how to deal with situations exactly like this one. Everyone at the table resonated with the information and bought a book.

That was a chance meeting at a Starbucks. What kind of impact could this information have if it were disseminated to a larger audience? If you would like to sponsor a workshop, talk, or seminar, please contact me. debra@transformationofevil.com

11 Ways to F.E.A.R.™

11 Ways to F.E.A.R™
by Rev. Debra Redman
(excerpt from Fall Down, Go Boom!)


The motivational phrase “Feel the fear and do it anyhow” doesn’t have the same energy as Flowing Easily, Allowing Rebirth or F.E.A.R™. Being scared and acting against that feeling requires courage, true, but it does nothing to help you let go of the resistance that created the feeling of fear in the first place. When you can allow the feeling of fear to flow through you, you have an ability to identify what is false evidence and determine for yourself how and why it would appear real to you. This is the beginning of your Dis-Illusionment. It’s the beginning of C.H.A.N.G.E.™

When you are ready to Flow Easily, Allowing your Rebirth, you need some ideas, mantras, and tools that can help you lessen the discomfort of your C.H.A.N.G.E.™ Presented now are eleven ways to F.E.A.R™

F.E.A.R. ™ Tool #1
Your idea of how things should be is not how it is and that’s OK. The illusion has you fooled. You can disempower it by accepting that you don’t really know what’s going on.

F.E.A.R. ™ Tool #2
Quit “Shoulding” on yourself! Your tribal belief systems are rearing up and trying to stop your process every time you find yourself saying things like “it should be like that” or “I should have done this”, “I shouldn’t have done that.” Every time you should on yourself, you are beating yourself up. You are holding yourself to standards and rules that no longer serve you. Let them go.

F.E.A.R. ™ Tool #3
Don’t compare your experiences, your reactions, your process to anyone else’s. Every time you do, you set up the “Should” complex and you succeed in beating yourself up some more. Comparisons will never be one-to-one. This creates confusion, reinforces the guilt machine, and causes a great deal of pain. It’s unnecessary. Stop it.

F.E.A.R. ™ Tool #4
Many people have said it. It’s true. What other people think of you is really none of your business. Your friends, family members, trusted advisors, the guy at work are all going to have an opinion. Remember that most people’s reactions to your process arise out of their own fears.

F.E.A.R. ™ Tool #5
Trust yourself. Your intuition, your heart, never lies to you. It’s incapable. Trust that you know how to react, cope, and respond to whatever you attract during your C.H.A.N.G.E.™ When you work to make sure that your intuition and heart are connected, your expression of your Truth will be perfect, regardless of what that looks like.

F.E.A.R. ™ Tool #6
Cry. A wonderful holistic physician defines these times as “moisturizing moments.” Tears are a release of the old energy. They release the dam and get things flowing again. There are lots of ways to release energy blockages, but crying is the easiest and fastest way to clear your brain of the physical and emotional toxins that are causing pain and discomfort. You can think clearly again when you’re done.

F.E.A.R. ™ Tool #7
Affirm that you are safe. Say to yourself “I AM safe.” This is the Truth of your situation. Everything is happening perfectly and the Universe has got your back.

F.E.A.R. ™ Tool #8
Show up even when you don’t feel like it. It’s so tempting to try to go crawl under a rock and hope that you can stay there until it’s all over. There are times when retreat is absolutely required. If you try to stay under the rock, you’ll make yourself sick.

F.E.A.R. ™ Tool #9
Learn to discern. Discernment is not judgment. Judgment says there’s black and white, right and wrong. Judgment is best recognized as the dreaded word “should.” Discernment assesses how, when, where, why, and what is appropriate for you at any given time.

F.E.A.R. ™ Tool #10
Get support. Identify people who are capable of discernment and unconditional love who can be your guides and your shoulder to cry on. Create space in your energy to allow yourself to be supported. When you do, your Dory will appear in many forms.

F.E.A.R. ™ Tool #11
Get happy. See the humor. Be in the Joy. Laugh at the events of C.H.A.N.G.E™ Enjoy the rapids of F.E.A.R.™ Disempower the fear, turn the illusion on it’s head.

Your gift to the world is to show others how to use chaos, change, and fear to get what you want out of life. Since everyone is beginning to accept that thoughts create reality and that we are all connected, your microcosm is the hologram that mirrors the macrocosm. This goes back to the Hundredth Monkey Theory. You are the Hundredth Monkey. Now go have fun swinging through the trees!

Diving Into The Abyss by Chantal DeBrosse

There comes a point in one’s life, especially when you are making moves to improve your lot, where you may experience what I am calling “Diving Into the Abyss”. An abyss is defined as an immeasurably deep chasm. It is also used to mean anything incomprehensibly profound or infinite such as the concept of the infinity of time. The derivative word, abysmal, means extremely or hopelessly bad or severe. When one is in the abyss, often plunging headlong or whirling and spinning with no concept of which way one should turn, it feels like things are hopeless. You know you are falling and the bottom is somewhere. You don’t know where the bottom is or when you’ll hit it, but you are sure there is going to be one and it’s gonna hurt when you crash against it. The impact may even break something or at the very least leave a scar. You just know this from past experience or from watching others as you observed them during their personal plunge.

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However, there is one thing that the abyss gives us that we are no longer focusing on as a result of changes in linguistic meaning and philosophical beliefs. In Greek mythology the abyss is the primal chaos before Creation. Chaos, you say? Yes, Chaos. Or as my friend Debra Redman calls it, C.H.A.O.S. - Catalytic Hunches Advancing Our Spirituality. Catalytic Hunches, eh? Well, here’s what I did on my very long two-year fall.

I panicked.

I adjusted.

I rationalized.

I was in denial a few times.

But I kept falling thinking this will end any minute now. But it didn’t end. Two years is a long time. So like a prisoner in a concentration camp, I accepted what was. I no longer counted on the end of the day as being one step closer to my breakthrough. Another day was just another day. There was no indication on any calendar as to when things would get better. Sometimes things got worse and other times they would ease up and be less severe, but not better.

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There was always another layer to the relentlessness of experiencing my life’s challenges. Though I live in a prominent neighborhood and have an important position in a respectable company, I was struggling to survive. Paying the mortgage on time meant not having enough food to eat. Buying food meant a check would bounce. Heating the house in the winter meant no gifts during the holidays. No gifts meant suffering the embarrassment of letting everyone know that I was in dire financial straits. Loving my son meant that I would be broken hearted yet hopeful for his present and his future. Loving my daughter meant I had to let her express her love for her father even if I wanted to tell her to shut up about that man that I divorced after 23 years of marriage. I knew I couldn’t tell her to wait on her feelings until I stopped being so mad and feeling so betrayed by my ex-husband and by my own self for making such a challenging choice for a spouse.

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Not one thing I did made anything better. Everything I did netted zero. That is, I was merely in a state of “hanging in there.” Plus, everything took practically forever. In 1983, my family emigrated from Haiti. Just this year, a letter from the US Citizenship and Immigration Services (formerly known as the INS) arrived announcing that I will be processed and become a fully naturalized citizen within 450 days. Imagine that. Over 25 years of paying taxes and I get “the opportunity” to wait 450 days. Well, I say to myself, at least I know that it is in the works. At last, I accepted as my mantra: “It is what it is.”

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Finally, something happened to signal that the fall was over. There were a few triumphs during my fall but none of them felt like this one. There was no thump because there was no bottom. Nothing broke. It didn’t hurt and instead of a scar there was healing. I felt my awareness sharpen as the shift made its presence known. In spite of myself, I learned something. I develop some very important skills for my continuing journey through life. I was learning to wait and not act on my impulses to lash out at everyone or run from everything. This whole experience was about waiting. Waiting on God, the Universe, the Angels and All-That-Is, trusting that everything is conspiring on my behalf for my greater good. I didn’t know that I was learning to trust. While falling, I honored the times when I needed to be still and enjoy the silence. I learned to keep myself busy by noticing my thoughts and not taking action on any of the ones that I felt would undo all that I believe I deserve. I believe I deserve peace, love, prosperity, health, and a clear connection with my divinity. The chaos was the matrix from which my newly revealed being was nurtured, cleansed and birthed. I am now in a state of suspended animation. I know don’t have to do anything. The upswing will soon begin. Let’s just say I have a Catalytic Hunch.

The Hundredth Monkey: Ten Tools for Chaotic Living

By Rev. Debra Redman

(This article excerpted from Rev. Debra’s forthcoming book, Fall Down, Go Boom!)

The Hundredth Monkey

Chaos is going to look like your world falling apart. In the coming years, it’s going to look like the world is falling apart. It’s all necessary and happening for a reason. These ten ways outlined below of living successfully with chaos are going to be the difference between emerging as a butterfly at the end of the process or getting stuck in the chrysalis stage of your spiritual evolution.

This is true on a personal level and on a global level. Every time someone deals successfully with chaos, change, evil, and fear, that experience enters the Universal Consciousness where it becomes knowledge available to everyone. People with whom you come in contact will learn from your example. They will be inspired to deal with chaos more positively and productively. This may sound utopian, but this is actually the application of a scientific principle known as the Hundredth Monkey Theory.

The Hundredth Monkey Theory found that when monkeys in the wild learn a new methodology for doing something, such as using a stick to pull ants out of an ant hill or washing dirty fruit in the river, that information is eventually picked up by other monkeys. When enough monkeys know about and start using the new tools, there seems to be a knowledge transfer that occurs to monkey populations all over the world. The knowledge has achieved critical mass.

With that idea in mind, think of the following ten ways to live with chaos as tools.

Ten Tools For Chaotic Living

What can you do to be comfortable living with chaos? First, accept that chaos and change are not out to hurt you. C.H.A.O.S. and C.H.A.N.G.E. are a necessary part of your spiritual evolution. Acknowledge, accept, and allow chaos and change to happen.

Second, use the traditional concept of fear to motivate you to some extent; however, remember that fear used wisely allows you to flow easily, allowing rebirth (F.E.A.R.). Your panic response will almost always block your highest good and make you miss the signs of what is the right action. Sometimes you are lead to do something, but a lot of the time you will probably be Told to Sit Your Ass Down (S.Y.A.D.)!

Third, stay present and grounded as much as possible. This helps you to not panic and lower your energy reserves anymore than they already are. It also helps you to identify when you are attracting the energy vampires that want to take advantage of your weakened condition. Energy Vampires and Energy Vampire Incognito as Light are discussed in the chapter called Transforming Traditional Evil into Light and Love.

Fourth, practice Trust and Faith. Remember that Trust is your conscious response to the appearance of less than ideal circumstances. Faith is the subconscious thought that all is well, regardless of what it looks like. Faith counterbalances the Shadow.

Fifth, take stock of what tribal belief systems are coming up for you. These subconscious and conscious belief systems are blocking the true condition of your situation. Figure out which ones still work and which ones need to be released in Light and Love.

Sixth, review your affirmations and denials. See if you can identify how the destruction of current circumstances may be leading you toward your goals or helping you achieve healing. Did you know you needed to heal a particular part of your life before you could receive the abundance of the Universe? Revamp old affirmations or create new ones. Use denials whenever necessary.

Seventh, don’t beat yourself up when you realize that you aren’t at your peak potential. Most likely, your energy will be depleted from fighting to keep chaos from happening. This low energy state is what allows the Universe to minister to you without your resistance. It’s also what allows energy vampires and Energy Vampires Incognito as Light (EVIL) to enter your life. So, if you realize that you are in a low energy state, allow the process to show you how to get back into a fully funded state of personal power as quickly as possible.

Eighth, practice Faith and Trust, compassion, awareness and patience when the EVILs, energy vampires, and P.I.G.S (People in Great Stupidity!) enter your life. They are there to help you heal whatever it is that no longer serves you.

Ninth, follow the catalytic hunches that are arranging your new growth experiences as much as possible. You are being advanced in your spirituality whenever you enter C.H.A.O.S. C.H.A.N.G.E is actively moving you on your path.

Tenth, have compassion for yourself. Forgive yourself for any reactions that may appear to be less than stellar, learn from the mistakes, and make the adjustments that are needed to keep you on the right track.

This is how the global spiritual awakening that is occurring now is happening. So, your individual response to chaos, change, fear and evil makes a critical difference to the world. Are you the Hundredth Monkey?

The Shadow Knows

“Accepting a larger level of anxiety is the price of growth. The failure to grow will produce either depression, or such fixated adaptation as we find in our daily neuroses.”

James Hollis, Why Good People Do Bad Things, pg. 70

Defining Traditional Chaos

James Hollis applies the Jungian philosophy that your ego consciousness is splintered and therefore you have what Jung called the Shadow. Some of these shadowy facets of your personality or ego are unconscious to you and it is these aspects of the personality that can control your thought processes, feelings, emotions, and actions. He advocates searching out these hidden parts of your ego consciousness because until you heal and accept them, they will cause you to behave in ways that deny your Highest Good. When this happens in your life, you go into chaos. The Shadow creates the chaos.

In Greek and Roman mythology, the Goddess of Chaos, also called Strife, has two sides which have opposite effects on your human life. The Goddess of Chaos is of The Light, regardless of how she appears to you. Strife can be a motivational energy that causes you to work harder to achieve your dreams or she can bring destruction for what seems to be no good reason at all. In whatever form she appears in your life, you can be assured that nothing will be the same when she’s gone.

Chaos causes the disintegration of old paradigms, out-dated institutionalized reactions and systems, and all things that no longer serve you. Chaos forces you to release old tribal belief systems inherited from the societal, cultural and family environments you were exposed to growing up.

Chaos shines the light on things that you haven’t dealt with in your life that are holding you back. Sometimes you consciously know what those thoughts and emotions are. Sometimes they remain subconscious and you are asked to move to a new level of Trust and Faith that everything that is happening is in your Highest Good. When you get on a roller coaster, you do so with complete Trust and Faith in the company who built the track, the safety harness, and the computer systems that run the ride. Allowing Chaos into your life is like riding a roller coaster.

Re-defining Chaos, Change, and Fear

When Chaos shows up, your response could be “hold on! The ride has begun!” Go on the roller coaster with her. OK – here you go- you’re ramping up to the top of the first hill. The car hesitates for just a moment – AND YOU’RE OFF! The car is shaking, hair is flying everywhere. You are screaming your lungs out! Here comes the Loop de Loop. You are upside down! And look – you haven’t fallen out of the car. Sometimes it felt like you could fall out during that ride but, you reach the platform all in one piece. Every time. Regardless of what happens on that ride, you always come out in one piece. You may be dead, but honey, you will be all in one piece wherever you land!

Did you tense up or relax while on that ride? If you relaxed into the ride, you probably weren’t scared much at all – a little concerned, maybe, but not terrified. That’s healthy. If you can realize that CHAOS is exactly like that roller coaster ride, the FEAR OF CHANGE practically disappears. When you can reach that state of balance, CHAOS moves out of the Darkness, into the Light to become CATALYTIC HUNCHES AWAKENING OUR SPIRITUALITY. Change becomes CATALYTIC HUNCHES ARRANGING NEW GROWTH EXPERIENCES. Fear becomes FLOWING EASILY ALLOWING REBIRTH. Do you see the beauty in that? The Goddess of Chaos never comes without bearing gifts.

You may have to walk into your Dark Night of The Soul. You may have to face terrible hardship. You may have to do it all by yourself. You will have to walk through the swamps before you reach your destination. You will have to face your illusions – False Evidence Appearing Real – before you are able to use the catalytic hunches that lead you out of the Forest of Darkness. You will have to learn how to Flow Easily Allowing the new growth experiences arranged specifically for your Rebirth.

What are you going to release in order to create space for the abundance and prosperity that’s waiting for you? CHAOS gives you that ability to achieve what you desire. Embrace her. Rejoice when the Goddess of Chaos enters your life or someone else’s. Someone lose a job, get fired? Call them up and tell them Congratulations! Relationship ending or changing? Congratulations! Don’t know what you are doing with your life? Hurray! Move into chaos with faith and trust that all is right and perfect in your life, even if it doesn’t look like it.

Chaos gives you a unique opportunity to practice looking at it from a higher perspective. This is where you begin to learn what it means to be in the human experience with a spiritual awareness. When you see what is occurring as simply an indication of the larger energies manifesting around you, you have an ability to relax into the human experience regardless of whether the human experience is judged “good” or “bad”.

When observing Chaos from this view, it becomes possible to read the clues that are given to you that show you where you are and what the next right action is going to be. Strife is doing her job to motivate you out of complacency and into action. However, action may not be what you think it is. Sometimes the right thing to do is to simply S.Y.A.D, as in “SIT CH’OR ASS DOWN!” Sit your ass down. Don’t move. Don’t DO anything. Not doing anything is doing something. The Universe will tell you when to move, what to do, and usually how to do it. If you stay present and aware, the signs will appear.

At this point is helps to remember that chaos and change are most likely happening in response to an affirmation or denial you put out into the Ethers. Affirmations create chaos. Denials create chaos. The Universe is setting up the conditions required to give you what asked. The old saying “Be careful what you asked for!” probably came from someone who was experiencing chaos and realized that what was happening was answering his prayer.